Benefits of dating a divorced man
– A female friend of mine got divorced recently, and confessed to me how much she dreaded now having the “divorced” label hanging over her head as she re-entered the dating pool, like some modern day version of the scarlet letter. You took a swing at love, rather than just playing it safe on the sidelines.
I think this experience actually means you’re a cut above your never-been-married friends. And are maybe more willing to wait for the right guy than jump into something just to have a body next to you.You don’t feel “incomplete” if you’re not in a relationship, and are maybe becoming a better person each day that you’re on your own. You now know (if you didn’t before) that love takes .That it doesn’t just magically take care of itself, and float along in a some happy, pink cloud surrounded by unicorns and cotton candy.You know that both parties have to commit to supporting each other and making compromises on a daily basis. Maybe you’ve recognized that you’ve made a mistake–either in your own actions, or simply by marrying someone who was making a lot of mistakes. Maybe you were the one who walked away, and now know what “Mr.This, too, means you’ll have a more realistic and mature approach to your future relationships. You had the balls (irony intended) to walk away from something that wasn’t working. And isn’t afraid to face some public scorn in the process. And that’s incredibly valuable for your future partners in life, because you’re clearly humble enough to accept criticism and question yourself. You probably now have a deep knowledge of what sexually satisfies you (and what doesn’t). Wrong” looks like, so you’ll better able to spot “Mr. You know what it’s like to watch love slip away, and you’re more able to keep it from happening again, to have the tough conversations that need to happen. You’ve suffered pain and loss, so you value joy and happiness more than those who’ve never lost it. Because there are those of us who find you all the more appealing for the battles you’ve won & lost.You stood up and said, “No, I won’t stay in something that’s a lie.” And that means you have standards. Right.” Your bullshit detector is now iron-clad, and you realize you don’t always have to “stand by your man.” Because a lot of guys don’t deserve to be stood by. Hell, maybe you can help us prevent us from losing our way, too, if we drift. Because you look wonderful when you walk down the street alone, unafraid, cool and confident. You’ve experienced a wider range of emotion in life, and have a deeper appreciation for the highs & lows. Who find you much more interesting and inspiring for having a few kinks in your armor and some stories to tell.
You’ll be less likely to fall for bullshit more able to identify a true heart. Or maybe you yourself realize you weren’t such a peach, yourself. When you sit at the bar with no one next to you, it doesn’t bother you a bit. Which makes us want to be next to you all the more. And maybe you’ll find one of us wanting to be by your side sooner than you think. 😉 – Also read: 17 Reasons I’m Still In Love With You by Mark Radcliffe – About Mark Radcliffe Mark Radcliffe is a writer living in New York City.
That you have things to work on in your character, personality or attitude. He has a weakness for bourbon, jazz and girls who can drive stick.
But that willingness to accept fault is also incredibly attractive to the right guy.
It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single, attractive, heterosexual woman over the age of 40 must be in need of a man.
Or so Carrie Bradshaw would have you believe; and she is mostly right.
But for me, and my three best friends, the key word is “want” rather than need.